Woman Refuses To Pay For Husband's Meal, Husband Has Meltdown

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mattstaff
Apr 18, 2021 8:00 AM EDT

Uh oh, this is quite the situation. It sounds like this guy has all kinds of imminent financial ruin on the horizon. And then, when he's served up a bit of a reality check, he reverts to a temper tantrum state of mind. The folks in the comments section were not forgiving. 

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    Font - AITA For Refusing to pay for my husband's meal at the restaurant? Not the A-hole Me f30 and my husband M32 have been married for 4 months. He likes to be independent in everything. Especially when it comes to money. He's bad with money meaning he never plans for tomorrow and enjoys buying new things everyday. I approached him with the idea of having a joint account. And he said okay. But sadly he took it as in his salary was doubled up and kept purchasing stuff that are expensive without
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    Font - I talked to him. His response's that since his money's in that account meaning he doesn't have to tell me about where he spends it because technically...it's his money. He admitted joint account was bad idea and unnecessary; In his words "am I crazy to think that everyone should just be able to have their own money to spend regardless of wether they were married or not?" We decided that each of us have our own salary but both equally pay for everything. He agreed long as he could buy what
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    Font - Last night he suggested we go eat at a restaurant. I assumed each of us pay for our own meals. We arrived and he ordered more dishes than me and two types of desserts. When it was time for paying. I asked the waitress for separate bills and my husband looked confused when he heard. He said "You're not gonna pay for my meal too?" I told him it's his decision that each of us pay for everything 'individually'. Told him this is what separate finances means. He got upset saying he spent all th
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    Font - He came home 2 hours later telling me his buddy came and paid for his meal no problem. He said I shouldn't have declined to pay for his meal and was being mean to him. I told him to not take his misplaced anger out on me but he still argued with me about what I did and how unacceptable it was. After that I took some time to calm down. We had a talk this morning and when I suggested therapy first thing he said "Okay, But who's paying?" Then reminded me of what I did and how unacceptable it
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    Rectangle - drbeerologist · 1d · Partassipant [4] 2 Awards NTA but jeez, how did it get to this point? What was the financial discussion like before marriage? I mean, if this isn't resolved somehow the marriage will fall apart. 6 Reply 4 15.4k 3 ...
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    Font - dezeiram · 1d · Partassipant [2] Everyone saying eshis bonkers. You were goaded into leaving him at the restaurant as a result of a very long string of highly disrespectful and irresponsible decisions on his part. NTA. Paying for his meal would have just shown him that he could continue to financially bully you, which is honestly pretty in-line for cops. Get out of this situation asap. G Reply 1 88 3 ...
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    Font - NTA but are you sure you want to be married to this man? Seems like he doesn't care about you at all. G Reply 4 77 3 ...
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    Rectangle - crestedgeckovivi • 1d Nta, Sounds like you need separate lives, why did you marry this person?? G Reply 金84 ...
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    Rectangle - re_nonsequiturs • 1d NTA Separate finances until he wants something? Oh dear. 1 19 3 G Reply ...
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    Font - Even_Speech570 • 1d • Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA, but if you have no children you need to leave this man. There is no future with a spendthrift like this G Reply ...
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    Product - terrapharma • 1d · Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] Debt during marriage is communal in some states in the US. This guy could ruin your credit and have you paying off his bills for years. NTA. He expects that what is his is his and what is yours is his as well. Get out while you still have a decent credit rating. G Reply 4 15 ...
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    Font - NTA He wanted separate finances and is now mad at you because he thought you were going to pay for him. Frankly, you two need a serious talk here before something major happens. G Reply 4 31 3 ...
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    Font - tempergalaxy · 1d · Partassipant [4] NTA he wanted to go to dinner. If he didn't have money for dinner that's his fault. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA but Why didn't y'all discuss this stuff before marriage? He's gonna make y'all go bankrupt. G Reply 4 12 3 ...
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    Rectangle - SnooOranges3690 • 1d NTA but he's going to get worse as time goes by unless he learns some financial education and you guys get couples counselling. G Reply ...
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